The Photo Session

I didn’t start telling my story for the first time on Authenticity & Grace.  It began with close family and friends who I could trust and who would be a safe place for me to open up and reveal a part of me few knew.

 

My cousin, Deborah, was one of those people. 

We are kindred spirits and coffee lovers!  

Deborah is energetic, fun, creative, and caring! She listened, asked questions, and was my cheerleader as I started Authenticity & Grace.

When it came time to get pictures for the blog, I knew it had to be Deborah to take them.  Pictures have always been difficult for me.  Deborah made what was normally a terrifying experience a joyous, safe, and freeing time.  She helped me to feel confident and beautiful despite the fact people were watching us while we traipsed around downtown Columbus.  

Deborah shares her perspective of my story in her recent BLOG.  Be sure to check it out and her amazing pictures at DG Photography!

 

Thank you, Deborah, for your love, support, and for believing in me.  I love you!

 

Weight and Diet Conversations in Recovery

What do you do in recovery when everyone around you is talking about weight loss and diets and it triggers your ED voice?

This has been a challenge for me.  Before I was the one who started these conversations, but now I try to avoid them.  It seems no matter where I turn someone is talking about weight loss and diets.

I’m not upset or mad at people, but these conversations are triggering to me.   I know avoiding these conversations are important for me to keep ED quiet.  Weight conversations are like gasoline on a smoldering fire for me.


Several weeks ago, I was in a room and everyone was talking about the weight they were losing. I didn't say anything and simply listened to what they had to say.

But this was the conversation going on in my head:

ED: Do you remember the excitement and thrill of losing weight!  Don’t you want to feel that again?
Me: Yes, I do, but even when I did, it still wasn’t good enough for you.
ED: What if you would go back to the clean eating?  It’s healthy and you could lose weight by doing that.  You did before.
Me: I could listen to you, but now I get to enjoy a wide variety of foods.  There’s not this dread of being so limited to what you say I can eat.  Plus, it took a lot of time and energy to eat “clean.”
ED: But if you could get the perfect body, then you would be happy and it would be worth it.
Me: That is a lie.  When I restrict with clean eating, then the restriction leads to binging which leads to a dark place.  I am going to continue to eat intuitively and accept my body for where it’s at right now.  I’m tired of the endless cycle of binging and dieting.
ED: But….
Me: That’s right ED, freedom is better than the bondage you put me in with clean eating!

After having this conversation in my head, I realize how far I have come in my recovery.  I was able to separate my healthy voice from ED, disagree with him, and then disobey him!  (I learned this from "Life Without ED" by Jenni Schaefer.)  A conversation that normally would have triggered me, now can strengthen my healthy voice and silence ED.

At times, I have shared with my friends, that because of my eating disorder, it is best for me not to be involved in these discussions. My family and friends are amazing and they have been understanding and supportive.  Sometimes they even share about their own struggle with disordered eating or eating disorder.

 

What are some ways you handle these conversations if they trigger ED's lies?